Green Eye Monster of Jealousy! Friendship revised...

So I was part of a conversation that well made me think... I have had these conversations before and listened intently to others saying how they see my relationship and lackadaisical way when it comes to protect my relationship!

Let's discuss... I have no jealous bone in my body! No literally--- ask around! I don't know how to be jealous; that being said I unfortunately (at least this is the definition my friends would take) don't get remotely possessive of my husband, and expect the same mutual respect of my husband.

What does that mean? I am allowed to have MALE friends... he is encouraged to be friends with girls. More so my husband wouldn't go and seek out a friendship from a strange female, but our mutual friends are well mutual. If a girlfriend came over and I wasn't here, I would assume she would stay grab a chair, play with the girls and have a coffee with him. Would I automatically be worried, concerned, fearful or jealous??? ---- Ummm NO! That almost seems odd, why would I believe my husband would every be disloyal to me, would my friend put the moves on my husband, are these not suppose to be people who love and cherish me.

What I honestly believe, is if you have a glimmer of doubt a thought of this possibly occurring than you don't really trust one or both people in the situation.

Why I might go mental if my husband was jealous... I am human but not mean or sneaky to a fault. Do I find men attractive, of course I do; I am married not dead! Men don't all look the same, no one person is utter perfection and I am not in-love with my husband because of his looks, it's far more than that and will always be more that! But will my husband ever get jealous of my uber social ways with the opposite sex, no!! I believe he knows I am not that stupid, remotely retardedly in-love with the man that is in my life to be knocking on the door of moral stupidity.

But what bothers me more than some or many of my friends calling our relationship a mystery in non-jealousy... is that they wouldn't engage in a social friendly meeting/hangout with either of us. Why? Because I would trust my husband to hang out with them, why would they not trust me with their husbands or boyfriends. I have NO interest in him WHATSOEVER! Why would going out for coffee, lunch or dinner with my friend who might just happen to be the opposite sex be so touchy of an issue. We are Friends! Friends... when did the word friend get lost in reality that people are scared of their actual friends.

Perhaps I believe in the sanctity of Friendship! That our friends may they be male or female are a person to have a great conversation with, to share great stories and not expect anything more than that!

So get me or not... I am not asking you to think like me, but I definitely think my belief sense is all that makes sense to me. If I was your friend, would you trust me enough to have lunch with your significant other???

The Secret!!

I know the last time I wrote I said I was reading a Dr. Phil book.... but I ended up being side tracked and started reading a little known book called the Secret. I am not going to tout it's wonderfulness to you all or what it says. But well Self Matters... positive thinking is something you have to go through and believe in!

I have been in a self realisation, it's hard raising daughters under the age of 2, having a husband who came down with some sort of odd disease/cold. And really just trying to be the best mom, wife, daughter, sister, cousin and friend I can be. I tend to over extend, I tend to overdo, I tend to want to be all I can be to everyone! Time I try to be the best Me for ME!!!

Which is where the Secret comes in, I decided to read this little book to find a way to get to a happier place... a happy place within me! And while reading, while focusing on the positives in my life, my family, my house.... I started to look at the positives within ME! Digging deep and hard, I am starting to let go of my shortcomings, started regressing to my teenage years where being carefree and non-judgemental of myself seemed almost the most logical way to feel about oneself.

So I advise that you all go and find a book, a magazine or something to read that well makes you want to take care of yourself, actually motivates you to focus on you and well works on being the best you for YOU!