Pushing through Me as Mom!

Lately I have been bombarded with comments and conversations about being Mom, being Social Mom and a Mom Blogger.

When did being pigeon-holed into a category make people feel the right to pass judgement, I read a blog about non-moms being the evil that the perils of being mom were misunderstood... but we're we moms not non-moms at one point in time. Then I read scathing twitter comments my most disturbing; "mom bloggers write blogs just so they can feel cool again." Best part it was from a fellow female. I don't understand this harbouring of resentment, I don't understand the lack of consideration in your fellow, human or even your fellow female.

I am a MOM, I may have worked in Editorial for a brief moment, been in the social circle before having kids, and please cool.... anyone even using the term can't really consider themselves cool! But when did a mom writing and sharing become so unattractive to those who don't have kids... why I ask, why do I care? Well because at one point in time some single living it up women will become the moms that they disparage in public forums.

I call it as it is, a huge amount of foot in mouth syndrome, where without taking precautions we speak without thinking. I take responsibility for the opinions I make, but I also like being called out on my shit, because I believe that owning up to offending people, learning from your lack of knowledge on a subject and just listening to an other's point of view makes me smarter and wiser on the subject may it reoccur in my life.

But most of all, I feel I have to defend my choice in parenthood, I wanted babies, I don't care that I worked in the most scathing industry that doesn't promote bearing children, I don't care that I have a social life that isn't very "mommy".... I don't like being pigeon-holed.... and believe that people do things for different reasons, it would be as I sitting here and commenting on why one doesn't have children, or moms who chose to stay home with their kids and don't leave their house... we do what "WE" want!

I do what I want... I want to stop feeling the need to defend my position. I want to be free of titles given to me by others, I want to be the funnest most outgoing mom, who does crafts with her girls, who goes swimming with them at the pool, who comes home and gets ready for a tweet-up or drinks with a girlfriend. Because I want to be me!

I tweeted this statement the other day; people assumed I was upset about something but I am just stating the obvious!

I am me, I am the best me I can be, I can't be you, you can't be me, there is only one of me!

I can't take the heat!

I can't take this heat we are dealing with here in Toronto... I am sure some people have it far worse than we do and I hate to complain but:

1. I have NO A/C in my house, I didn't need it all year last year and didn't think we would ever need one since we grin and bared it for a whole summer.


2. I do NOT live close to a salt water beach. We have beaches so don't get me wrong... I love, did I say LOVE, I truly love the beaches we have here in the city but swimming in them is slightly scary and I don't get the same kind of swim in a lake that I adore getting from salt water.


3. So relief might be to get in the car and go somewhere but even the car doesn't have A/C.


4. I refuse to cook in this heat, so I haven't eaten anything substantial in the last couple of days (far too many sandwiches from Subway)


5. My hair, has been up and has not come down in days... showering to make myself pretty for a cute outfit not going to happen, it's too hot to turn on the blow dryer.. so my hair well looks like ASS!

But I have had a couple of nice days with my girls taking in the warmth with 3 visits to a pool of some sort, visits to their yiayia's house so they can be in an air cooled room and I have even gotten 2 extreme workouts in...

otherwise I am melting away... to hot to handle and would rather sit around and be naked daily and do nothing. Guess that wouldn't be highly productive of myself. Are you in a heat wave? Are you enjoying the heat? Or how are you coping?

Cheers!~

Ohhh Busy Bee week!!

I had a bit of a busy week last week... I have so much to share and feel real guilty about the facet that I haven't posted in over a week.

Posts to come this week (in no specific order):

1. March of the Happiness Project, this is a work in process big time and so writing it out has been difficult, but it's coming.
2. The Great 13, I have been with my Husband for over 13 years, good, bad and even Ugly, triumphant and tear-jerking fantastic.
3. Gumball 3000... a little out of the ordinary post but a great outing I had a ton of fun on.
4. plus some fun other stuff.......

I have been working out, I have been doing wedding planning stuff for a friends upcoming wedding and well I have been Mom! So Mother's Day came and went... didn't get spoiled if you are going to ask. But I was with my family and that was all that mattered!

Cheers!